Congratulations on your engagement! Music can play an important role in your wedding, helping create an atmosphere and celebration that truly reflects both the sanctity of the occasion as well as desired mood of the occasion. Weddings at MQP attempt to give the bride and groom “what they want” while remaining within the established boundaries of the Church. Weddings are joyful events, but planning a wedding can often be stressful with a seemingly endless parade of decisions to be made over seemingly minor details. Understanding that, we suggest a sequence to follow to help plan the music for your wedding with ease.
1. The Date:
Once you have scheduled the wedding with the parish office, contact the music director to begin the musical arrangements. You will schedule a meeting with the music director to start to plan the music of the liturgy, and if you know that you want some additional musicians, mention them at this time so they can be contracted.
Before the meeting, download the “Wedding Music Planning Guide” and “Suggested Musical Selections” below. Take some time to browse this material and begin to think about your “must have” and “no way” selections. Try also to consider the mood of the liturgy- are you more formal or casual? Moving liturgy can be created either way.
3. The Meeting
When you meet the music director, you will attempt to settle on as much of the music as possible. The music director will be happy to demonstrate some musical selections in the church so long as it is available. Keep an open mind-you might find you like something you didn’t even know existed. It is also possible to use combinations of instruments at different times in the service- you can have organ in some places, piano in others, guitar in others, so long as we can get the people!
4. Follow up
It may be necessary to follow up or even have a second meeting to make the final musical selections for the wedding. Once the final music list has been selected, the music director must approve that all of the selections are appropriate for use in the wedding liturgy.
5. The Program
After the final song list is approved, feel free to have any programs printed. Some programs are very general with only a rough outline of the wedding liturgy, while others are quite detailed. If desired, the music director can help make suggestions regarding how to list music in the program.
6. The Rehearsal
It is seldom necessary to have the musicians present at the wedding rehearsal, and requesting it may incur an additional fee. Musicians may need to rehearse on their own time away from the wedding rehearsal, though experienced musicians probably only need to come approximately one hour prior to the wedding to rehearse.
7. The Big Day
This is the time to just enjoy the fruits of all of the planning that went into your wedding. Make sure that you have a “coordinator” who can let the musicians know when it is time to begin the processional, and have a blessed marriage!